By BLAIRE PALMER
Influencing your mind is a learned skill and practice is key.
Having the life you want is just as much about your attitude and mindset as it is about your actual circumstances. Crucially, how you choose to see your life determines what choices you then make. And those choices determine the level of fulfillment you feel.
OK, so you might not be able to control some of the events that happen to you during the course of your life, but you often have a choice about what you do as a result. The more balanced your mindset, the more constructive your resulting choices are likely to be.
Influencing your mindset is a learned skill. You will get better at it if you practice. Of course, there are lots of books written about positive mental attitude and many techniques to choose from if you want to build this muscle.
To help you out, here are 50 ideas to help you adopt a balanced mindset. Some of them are easy to do (like idea three). Others are a little more difficult (like number four). Don’t try to do them all at once; your mind will melt. But pick two or three and try them out this week.
Having a positive attitude feeds into the choices we make and the fulfillment we feel in our daily lives. So here are some great ways in which you can take control and turn your life around.
- Keep a gratitude journal, listing everything you are grateful for each day.
- Smile at strangers.
- Say thank you.
- Be present in the moment.
- Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Remember people are always doing the best they can with the information they have.
- A thought: people aren’t judging you as harshly as you think.
- Make a list of your strengths.
- Spend time on activities you enjoy.
- Savor your food.
- Every decision you make is a choice – including the decision to avoid making a choice.
- Learn to accurately name your emotions.
- Make yourself laugh.
- Make a collage of photos of people you love.
- Keep mementos that remind you how great you are.
- Do something every day that scares you a little.
- Get on top of your paperwork.
- Listen to other people. Really listen.
- Put a reminder of your childhood somewhere where you see it regularly. It has been shown to bring out the best in people.
- Wear clothes that make you proud of yourself.
- Prepare for difficult conversations to ensure you speak from the heart and not from fear or anger.
- Accept that things change.
- Look for positives after challenging experiences.
- Go for a walk.
- Play the long game – today’s drama may not seem so serious in a few days.
- Try not to generalize. Hard and fast rules can keep you stuck in a rut.
- Be generous to yourself. You are your best friend.
- Have something to look forward to.
- Get perspective on your troubles by listening to friends who see the bigger picture.
- If you’ve done something you’re not proud of,apologize or put it right.
- Take a break.
- Stop and smell the flowers. Literally.
- Read inspirational stories about real people.
- Read about people less fortunate than you.
- Build strong relationships with your family.
- Offer help without expecting anything in return.
- Be open to new ideas.
- Treat yourself, occasionally.
- Learn to distinguish between your self-critical inner voice and your wise inner voice.
- Take responsibility rather than blaming others.
- Avoid gossip.
- Consider professional help. There are people who deal with situations like yours for a living.
- Get to know some of your neighbors.
- Remember the saying ‘This too shall pass.’
- You’ve conquered difficult things in the past. That should give you confidence when you approach difficult things in future.
- Try to find at least three options to resolve an issue before making a final decision. Sometimes the best solution is the last one you think of.
- Give or accept a really lovely, long hug.
- Be honest with yourself.
- Count to 10 (or 50!) before doing something you might regret.